Posted in: Israel, Rape
Published on Sep 02, 2020 by Rachel Avraham
Are Israeli youth developing a rape culture?
Thoughts at the start of the school year after the alleged gang rape in Eilat. Where do parents and educators go from here? Opinion.
Some weeks have passed, but the shocking gang rape of a 16-year-old girl in Eilat that was reportedly committed by dozens of boys and men ranging from age 16 to adults in their thirties continues to galvanize the Jewish state, causing many pundits to ponder the sociology behind this horrific crime. With school starting this week, educators are trying to see where things went wrong.
Some have pointed to the common practice of underage Israelis renting hotel rooms by themselves, without any sort of parental supervision. Others blame the existence of a permissive mentality claiming “boys will be boys,” which led to some Israelis granting a hero’s welcome to a group of 12 Israeli youth, who were accused of gang raping a woman in Cyprus and then were acquitted (as it was consensual - as if that made it alright.).
I believe that there are deeper issues at play that culminated in the brutal Eilat gang rape than those mentioned above.
Since 2014, the Association of Rape Crisis Centers in Israel has documented 250 gang rapes in the Jewish state per year (both Jewish and Arab). 55% of these gang rapes are perpetrated by teenagers. Furthermore, 63% of rapes in Israel were committed by boys age 12 to 18, while only 37% by adults over age 18. This makes one ask, what is happening to Israel's youth that makes them likely to rape and gang rape women and girls? Is a rape culture developing among the nation’s youth?
Dr. Anat Gur, the CEO of Women’s Wisdom Center, claimed that many young Israelis today are exposed to pornography - although there are ways to censor the web on home computers and smartphones - that presents a plan of action for rape, as it portrays women as “objects, as if they are portraying bizarre and degrading acts and desires. Young teens learn about sex by watching porn and no wonder they are prone to gang rape without even acknowledging that they are committing a horrific crime..In addition, it is known that the rate of sexual assault in its various forms includes the exploitation of women and girls..., especially common in places where the patriarchal society is powerful (army, police, sports team).”
“It is clear that Israeli society is in a constant state of war, that the army is strong, that there are many hierarchal structures like the army and the police, and there are [societal] groups where the control of the father is strongly felt,” she added. “Once women and girls are presented as a commodity worth money, it affects all women and girls in the society, not just those that are in prostitution.”
Orit Sulitzeanu, director of the Association of Rape Crisis Centers in Israel, declared that there is a huge vacuum in the Israeli educational system: “These kids did not get any education about what is consent and what is a good sexual relationship and what is abuse. In Israel, it is not compulsory to learn about unhealthy sexual behaviors. If it were compulsory, maybe we would see less cases like that. We wrote a national program to educate against sexual violence to teach young kids what is appropriate sexually. We want to put it into place.”
However, it has not yet been put into place. This means that unless the average young Israeli learns to respect women and girls from his home environment, he will not learn this crucial life skill.
Changing the educational system to include sexual ethics may not be enough to change what is going on. Dr. Gur added that if a child does not learn to respect women and girls at home, what he learns at school may not be able to undo that: “The power of the educational system is limited. If a child sees at home norms of moral debasement, humiliation, consumption of prostitutes, pornography, etc., it may prevail over one’s education.” In less extreme words, if a child does not see love and respect at home, that can have a catastrophic effect upon the greater society.
According to prominent women's rights activist and author Dr. Phyllis Chesler, “Male sexual violence against children, girls, and women persists globally as does prostitution (paid rape) and trafficking or sexual slavery. Israel is, alas, either no better than other countries—or no worse. Most patriarchal societies minimize the consequences of rape and do not view it as the soul-shattering or soul-murdering crime that it is...”
Given this, Sulitzeanu argued that what matters is if there is a “good program” to combat it and a “good educational system.” In the Israeli case, only five hospitals in the entire State of Israel have rape units and this did not include the hospital in Eilat. On top of that, there is no legislation barring the destruction of rape kits, thus making it exceedingly difficult to prosecute rapes from previous years. In 2018, only 17% of rapes were prosecuted in Israel.
Furthermore, there is not a single ministry devoted to combatting Violence against Women despite it rising greatly during the pandemic and no specialized court dedicated solely to prosecuting sex crimes. The educational system is stressed-out financially and resource-wise, and this effects the ability to direct resources towards additional any programs, including one dealing with sexual ethics.
All of the above could lead to the development of a rape culture among the country’s youth if concrete action is not taken to correct it.
Here’s a novel idea, one that has been tried before with great success but has fallen into desuetude, apparently, on college campuses. It will solve all these problems, the “rape culture,” the “he said/she said,” the feelings of rejection by the party who had an emotional connection with another person who just sought a physical connection. It’s called… abstinence, self-discipline, or chastity. It involves waiting until marriage to engage in intimate acts, and then in a relationship in which the couple genuinely loves each other. It is preceded by a joyous ceremony known as a wedding, which too involves contractual obligations that are grounded in mutual respect. Problem solved…
Undoubtedly, this will not please the men who take pride in their multiple “conquests” of women, nor will it endear the women (who evidently exist) who do not mind construing the sublime expression of love as something casual and cavalier. But it is something that women truly deserve and that men truly need, and can also benefit marriages. There is something special about intimacy that is reserved for one person, and one person alone, in a committed relationship sanctified by G-d and man. One who is serially promiscuous will never know that, and that is a shame. Blessing awaits those who wait.
The complexity of this issue and its centrality in building a healthy society is one that Israel's entire religious education system, both Zionist and haredi - as opposed to the situation described in the beginning of this article - is aware of and consciously addresses halakhically and morally. Religious teens are taught to observe preventive Torah laws prohibiting physcial contact with the opposite sex and those prohibiting being alone in a closed space with someone of the opposite sex before marriage and mandating modest dress and behavior, all with the goal of teaching respect for women and elevating sexual relations to intimacy between committed partners.
It is common for religious parents to purchase filters that censor pornography on computers and smartphones while in the more stringent communities the use of smartphones is banned.
There is no acceptance or "understanding" of rape in the religious Jewish world, and while there are still cultures where women are considered automatically guilty in the event of rape, thousands of years ago the Torah (Deuteronomy 22:26) gave its verdict on rape: "But you shall do nothing to the young woman; she has committed no offense...For this case is like that of a man attacking and murdering his neighbor..."
Rachel Avraham is an Israel-based journalist and a political analyst working at the Safadi Center for International Diplomacy, Research, Public Relations and Human Rights. She is the author of “Women and Jihad: Debating Palestinian Female Suicide Bombings in the American, Israeli and Arab Media.”
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